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Saturday, June 13, 2009
Understanding Anger Triggers
Some technical problems that I hope we have worked out. Triggers. We all have them. For each of us there are certain things that just get under our skin and gets our blood boiling. Its a very personal experience what pisses me off may leave you wondering why I'm getting all bent out of shape over nothing and vice versa when you get upset. I've seen many couples struggle with this issue - "How can you do something so terrible to me and not recognize what a big deal it is? What kind of person did I marry??!!"
The reason each of us has a different set of triggers goes back to our old friend the brain. Remember how the emotional brain is basically a memory processing machine telling us how to respond to situations? Since we've all had different experiences our emotional brains are going to process situations differently and we are going to experience different events as triggering.
Most of us have a pretty good idea of what our triggers are. Not as many of us have an understanding of what it is that makes a trigger so powerful for us. The key to understanding and managing your triggers more effectively is to understand that its not the trigger itself that is so powerful - its the underlying meaning that we associate with the trigger that makes it so powerful. More to come in the next several postings.
The reason each of us has a different set of triggers goes back to our old friend the brain. Remember how the emotional brain is basically a memory processing machine telling us how to respond to situations? Since we've all had different experiences our emotional brains are going to process situations differently and we are going to experience different events as triggering.
Most of us have a pretty good idea of what our triggers are. Not as many of us have an understanding of what it is that makes a trigger so powerful for us. The key to understanding and managing your triggers more effectively is to understand that its not the trigger itself that is so powerful - its the underlying meaning that we associate with the trigger that makes it so powerful. More to come in the next several postings.
Anger management advice by Dr. Joe James at 9:10 AM
