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Anger Management
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Anger Management for Kids Pt. 1
This is the first in a series of posts that will look at how to teach your kids bow to manage their anger.
The most effective way to teach you kids how to deal with their anger is to model Coolness. Research has shown that the best way to teach anyone anything is through modeling. Especially kids, they look to how we deal with life as examples of how they are supposed to deal with it.
Because of this you can use upsetting experiences as "as it happens lessons" of ways to calm down. Here's an example: suppose your furnace breaks down and the repairman gives you one estimate that seems reasonable only to get halfway through the job and all of sudden say that things are much worse than he originally thought and that your estimate has now doubled. You're furious! Standing nearby is your child hearing the conversation and watching you very closely. Muster every ounce of calmness and use it as an instant anger control lesson: "I am so angry right now," you calmly tell your child. "The repairman just doubled the price for fixing our furnace." Then offer a calm-down solution: "I'm going on a quick walk so I can get back in control." You're now a living example of calmness, and that example is what your child will emulate.
The most effective way to teach you kids how to deal with their anger is to model Coolness. Research has shown that the best way to teach anyone anything is through modeling. Especially kids, they look to how we deal with life as examples of how they are supposed to deal with it.
Because of this you can use upsetting experiences as "as it happens lessons" of ways to calm down. Here's an example: suppose your furnace breaks down and the repairman gives you one estimate that seems reasonable only to get halfway through the job and all of sudden say that things are much worse than he originally thought and that your estimate has now doubled. You're furious! Standing nearby is your child hearing the conversation and watching you very closely. Muster every ounce of calmness and use it as an instant anger control lesson: "I am so angry right now," you calmly tell your child. "The repairman just doubled the price for fixing our furnace." Then offer a calm-down solution: "I'm going on a quick walk so I can get back in control." You're now a living example of calmness, and that example is what your child will emulate.
Anger management advice by Dr. Joe James at 8:01 AM
