I recently read a fascinating study which turns the stereotype of domestic violence upside down. This study, conducted by Archer, combined the results of 82 research projects of couples seeking anger management treatment found that 64% of women became aggressive in comparison to 61% of men and that 44% of women had become physically violent towards their partner in comparison to 31% of men.
These statistics, surprising as they may be, are not that different than what I see in my anger management classes which typically are split almost down the middle with an equal number of men than women. In fact, the number of women currently enrolled in
Dr Joe's online anger management classes slightly outnumbers men.
Despite all the evidence that anger management problems are essentially the same in men as women the stereotype remains that men are most likely to be violent offenders. Why is this? There are several reasons. Men are often loathe to report be assaulted because of the stigmatization of being seen as wimpy. The converse is also true as many women don't want to be seen as aggressive.