From the Frankfort (KY) State-Journal:
When they walk into their classroom at Thorn Hill Learning Center, the kids in Mary West’s anti-aggression club drop to the floor and stretch their arms and legs.
They inhale deeply, then let out the breath with the loud “whoo” sound of a “wise, old owl.” The lights are already off, and thick curtains block most of the sunlight as the kids relax before starting their real work: dealing with their anger.
West, director of Summer Adventures in Learning at Thorn Hill, says the club is about helping kids make better choices. In its second year in Frankfort, it seeks to teach them empathy and teamwork, and build self-esteem.
“We have to take a really proactive approach to counterbalancing this,” West said as the club headed to lunch Tuesday.
“They’re the first to hit, but if they get hit, they’re the first to scream. They can only relate to ‘me,’ so we have to work on those skills.”
The club follows a curriculum designed by Louisville neurosurgeon Dr. Timir Banerjee, founder of the Society of the Prevention of Aggressiveness and Violence Among Adolescents.
SPAVA meets for the next two weeks in a cozy classroom at Thorn Hill, with worn-in couches, throw rugs and pillows.
Superheroes are painted on the walls, which are lined with lockers. The club will continue to meet in the fall as a weekly after-school program, West said.
Aaron Perkins, 8, known to the group as “Half Pipe” for his love of skateboarding, says he has trouble controlling his anger.
“When I get really angry, my hair turns red,” joked the redhead. “And it’s already red. See? It’s orange.”
Then he gets serious.
“For some reason, every single day sometimes, I have to sit in time out,” he said. “That’s really sad, because then I don’t get to play very much.”
Aaron says he’s trying to improve, and he says the club is helping.
He’s learned how to deal with frustration without threatening people, he says. Now he knows to tell a camp counselor if someone is bothering him, or if something isn’t fair.
“We learn how to get things without yelling or screaming,” he said. “They teach us all about stuff we need to learn about peace and feelings and all that.”
West contacted Banerjee a few years ago, after reading an article about the SPAVA program. The group’s founder trained West and six of her staff members in the concept, and it was implemented at Thorn Hill last year.
According to the SPAVA Web site, more than 2,200 students are enrolled in the program in the public and private schools in the Louisville area and Canada.
The curriculum teaches students communication skills, problem solving and cooperation. They learn how to read emotions and body language, and control their impulses.
They also learn about famous peacemakers: Martin Luther King Jr., Mahatma Gandhi and Nobel Peace Prize winner Wangari Maathai.
Thorn Hill’s club is a little different than other places, West says. Students here are chosen to participate because they need it, while some schools offer SPAVA to all of the students in a class.
“We hand pick these kids that need it the most,” she said. “Keeping those folks on task is a bit more challenging, but they can learn from each other.”
West added yoga and tai chi relaxation methods to the class - they aren’t part of the original curriculum.
“These kids are under a lot of stress, whether it’s divorce, or some of them being raised by grandparents,” she said.
“Some of them have parents in prison - there are some real good reasons why these kids are having trouble to begin with.”
West has also given her club a Native American theme. The 13 boys and one girl operate as “the tribe,” and they choose Native American names inspired by their best qualities.
A fast runner goes by “Fleet Footed,” and an avid artist calls herself “Princess Color-A-Lot.”
They use a talking stick - a plain, wooden ruler that must be in the speaker’s hands. Each day, the kids choose a new rule to govern the tribe.
They came up with “no mean words” on Monday, listing the forbidden ones on the chalkboard: shut up, dumb and stupid.
On Tuesday they added the tried and true golden rule, promising to “make each other feel like they want to feel.” It encompassed all the other rules they wanted to enact, like no fighting, pinching, kicking, biting or stealing.
Hunter May, 9, says he has fun at SPAVA. This is his second year with the program.
“It helps you deal with your anger,” he said.
He goes by the name “Brother Guide” because his younger brother is also in the club. On Tuesday, he drew a picture of himself on a large sheet of paper.
“How do you make a peace sign?” he asks, then copies the example.
West says it could take several summers of SPAVA before the light goes off for kids.
Many are too young to understand all of the lessons, she says. And boys are at a disadvantage when it comes to learning about emotion; they recognize, on average, seven facial expressions, compared to 35 for girls.
“The first thing they want to do when they experience pain is inflict pain on others,” she said. “Just getting them the skills they need to take a deep breath and evaluate the situation before they start pummeling someone.”
Today they will play capture the flag to learn diplomacy and teamwork. They’ll perform skits to learn how to deal with real problems, which West says could grow into a full-fledged play.
The bubble game is Aaron’s favorite.
Kids float around the room like bubbles to learn about personal space. If two bubbles touch, they “pop” and must sit out. West encourages the kids to “stay in their bubbles” as they head to lunch an hour later.
“We like to do the bubble game. It’s fun,” Aaron said. “That last time, I got out, but I was so close. There were only like five more people to beat.”
Aaron colored a picture of his Native American name and two big peace signs on Tuesday. He dug through a plastic tub filled with dozens of crayons.
“Ooh, violet!” he says, pulling a purple crayon from the box. “That’s a good color for peace. It’s really dark, and people like purple.”
But even with the talking stick, the deep breathing and the SPAVA curriculum, fights and frustration still break out.
One student gets angry during a group activity, and he shakes his fists and screams into a pillow. Later the inevitable happens, when three kids want to use the same yellow marker.
When two boys fight over a book about pirates, the kids freeze to solve the problem as a tribe.
West tells the class that one boy grabbed the book and yelled when he wanted it back.
“That’s the old way and boring way of doing things,” she tells them.
The tribe decides to treat each other like brothers, or even better - family members sometimes fight, they admit.
“We need to be angels and just live in peace,” says a young counselor in training assigned to the class.
A little while later, the tribe stands up to play a game.
“Can we whack people?” one boy asks with a smile on his face, brandishing a couch cushion.
“No,” replies a camp counselor. “That’s not the golden rule.”